It’s great that you are thinking about getting married in church: we believe God has given human beings the gift of marriage so that a man and a woman can be united physically, mentally and spiritually. One author says this: “God’s mathematics are strange and beautiful, because when it comes to marriage (and sex for that matter), one plus one equals one:
‘A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.’ – The Bible book of Genesis, chapter 2, verse 24.” 
Marriage provides a safe, stable environment for real enjoyment and commitment to each other and to children, if and when they come along. So as a church, we very much want to encourage you in your wish to get married in church.
There are some legal considerations we have to mention, if you are to be married at St James’s, Bramley:
- You need to be living in the parish of Bramley itself, or at least to have lived here for at least 6 months at some time in the past, or to have parents living in Bramley (there are also several other possible “qualifying connections”).
- If you live somewhere else, and don’t qualify on any other grounds, you need to attend St James’s on a regular basis (say, at least twice a month) for a period of at least 6 months and to join the electoral roll, the list of members of the church.
Generally speaking, we also require that neither of you should have been married before, but there are some exceptions to this, so please do feel free to ask. In addition, if you have been married before, it may be possible at least to have a service of prayer and dedication for you after you get married in a civil ceremony at the Registry Office.
We will help to prepare you for your wedding and for the years of marriage that lie ahead of you by meeting with you both for four short Bible studies on what marriage is all about, and by a one-day workshop when you and some other couples will meet with us and talk about some of the essentials of Christian marriage. And of course you will get lots of help in putting together your wedding service and choosing hymns and readings for it.
Please do get in touch by phoning The Rev’d John Lenton on 01256 880570 or emailing him at firstname.lastname@example.org
We look forward to hearing from you!
 If you could ask God one question, by Paul Williams and Barry Cooper, The Good Book Company, 2011